Madeleine Morgan of Growu writes:
Who you spend your time with can significantly impact your self-esteem, your happiness and your wealth.
Most books about success and personal development will tell you that if you want to be successful, hang around with like-minded, successful people. If you want your relationships to work, choose the right people to relate to.
The quickest way to decide whether your relationships are working is to gauge how you feel when you’ve spent some time with that person.
Do you feel energised, positive, supported and encouraged when you’ve spent time with them? Do you feel that you can trust them? Does it feel like they’re interested in you and what you care about? Do you feel you’re learning and developing in a positive way by being around them?
OR do you feel drained, betrayed, lacking in self-esteem, discouraged or frustrated? Do you feel the relationship is stagnant or that you are in danger of stagnating if you stick around?
How to Tell If Your Personal and Working Relationships are Working for You and What to Do About Them
5 Steps to Help You Make Sure Your Relationships Work for You
- Make a list of your close friends, colleagues, family and other people you spend most of your time with.
- For each one, ask yourself: “How do I feel after spending time with this person?”
- Next, add a score next to each name from +10 to -10 to represent how positive or negative you feel after spending time with them.
- Consider how much time you spend with each person
- Make a commitment to your happiness and success
- Find ways to spend more time with your positive relationships and make sure you nurture them. Find ways to be as inspiring, encouraging and positive with them as they are with you.
- Look for ways to improve your negative relationships – there may be a good growth opportunity for you or more potential than you’ve been aware of. So take the lead in this. You may need to pick up a mirror rather than a magnifying glass when thinking about their faults, for instance. You may need the perspective of a neutral person, like a life coach, to help you with this.
- If you’ve done what you can to improve the negative relationships, and it still isn’t working for you, make sure that you spend as little time as possible in them.
What’s your next step to making your personal and working relationships work for you?
Special Offers and Dates for Your Diary
- Free Successful Relationships Coaching Discovery Session
Is having great working and personal relationships with the opposite sex a must for you in 2015? Are challenges in your work and personal relationships holding you back in your career, your business or your personal life and frustrating you?
If your answer is yes check out these this 121 coaching opportunity.
I have 2 Free Coaching Discovery sessions left to give away in February.
During that 60 minute session, we’ll:
- discuss where you are with your working and personal relationships and the challenges you face
- uncover hidden barriers to your success.
- get clear about how you’d like your relationships to be.
Then I’ll show you how you can bridge that gap. You’ll go away feeling positive, excited and confident about making 2015 your best year yet for personal and working relationships.
If you would like to apply for a session, just email me and tell me what days/times would suit you: madeleine@growu.co.uk
- Accountability Club Business Growth Programme Launching Thursday 5 March
Are you frustrated by the slow growth of your business? Is your business experiencing growing pains? Would you like to make more money and have more fun growing your business? Then the Accountability Club Business Growth Programme could be just what your business needs…there are only 5 places left so hurry and grab the opportunity. Click here for more details
It’s tough being a team leader, manager or supervisor. During this one-day Successful Managers’ Toolkit workshop, you’ll discover how to overcome the challenges and make your role much easier and rewarding to perform. www.successformanagers.co.uk or email madeleine@growu.co.uk for more details.
Quotes of the Week about Relationships
- “Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike.” J K Rowling “The Order of the Phoenix”
- “The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” C G Jung
- “You can talk with someone for years, every day, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever…. connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.” C Joybell
- “There are no difficult people. There are only inflexible communicators.” Presupposition of NLP
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